Harriette Lowenstein, MA, LMFT

Welcome to all my new subscribers and loyal readers.  Success Strategies is written specifically for people who want a better relationship with themselves, their partner, children, friends, and/or co-workers.  Please feel free to forward this issue to anyone you think will enjoy or benefit from it.

 

Here's a quick, three-part quiz about one of the major issues most people grapple with these days.
a) List the most frequent points of contention that recur in relationship after relationship
b) Name the biggest fear women have about their future.
c) Guess the secret we hold dearest, beyond even our most intimate relations.

If you said: a) communications, sex and  MONEY; b) losing control of their physical or mental facilities or being on the streets because they don't have any MONEY; and c) the amount of MONEY we owe; you're absolutely right.

Money - the lack of it, the fear of losing it, and the dread of not having enough - tops the list of concerns of the majority of people these days.  Everybody, it seems, has money issues, but, sadly, hardly anybody talks about it.  Money is our secret, both in private and in public.  Sometimes we don't even admit our worries to ourselves.

Like most secret fears, anxieties about money spread like the common cold until they've infected our attitude and behavior and smothered any sense of well-being.  And, because we don't talk about them or admit them, we are held back from doing anything about them.  Once the fear is given voice, however, some of its power is taken away and can begin to take action.

Suze Orman, auther of The 9 Stages to Financial Freedom, believes that the sooner we deal with our fears, the more money we will be able to create.  "When you heal your heart, you help your pocketbook," she says.

Often it is the early messages we received about money that influence our current beliefs.  That relentless, looping tape recorder in our minds picks up and continues to play old ideas that are sometimes so subtle we don't even realize their presence.

So, one of the first steps in dealing with current money issues is to check out early beliefs that continue to color behavior and attitudes.  Makd notes about these old messages.  Write them down just as they play in your mind.  Also list your fears about money - no matter how ridiculous or far-fetched they might sound.

Our unspoken attitudes and ideas about money issues may be getting in the way of a sense of well-being and security in our lives.  In fact, we may not even know they exist.  And, like finding our way through a darkened room when things are bump in the night, it always helps to turn on the lights.

 

Do you fight about money?  How to spend it, how much to save, how to invest it?....In virtually every research study, money ranks as the first or second most argued about topic in relationships.  It is also one of the most commonly sighted reasons for couples divorcing.   Getting to financial harmony is a journey, one that will provide greater prosperity and a happier relationship. 

If you are tired of fighting about money, this group is for you.  Uncover your "money story"- those core beliefs you have about money that were shaped by your early experiences.  Learn how to appreciate and respect your different styles, to resolve money conflicts, and to set individual and joint goals.

The group is limited to five couples so act fast.  It meets every other Monday from 6-7:15 at my office in Ventura.  The cost is $225/month.  To register email me at: hlowensteinmft@gmail.com or call the office at 805-339-9809.

 

I am committed to helping individuals and couples who are feeling overwhelmed, frustrated, and unappreciated develop strategies to improve their lives and relationships and live ON purpose with intension and passion.

Don't work harder work smarter.  As your coach I will help you figure out exactly what you need to do or say differently to get things back on track.  Don't waste another day.  Every day that passes with hurt and anger is another wasted day of your life.  You deserve to be happy and the power is yours.

Commit to having the life and relationship you deserve today!  To schedule an appointment, contact me by email: hlowensteinmft@gmail.com or by phone: 805-339-9809.